What is the meaning of this strange calculation?
It’s the summary of the best part of my life. Even though I have now lived on this earth for over eighty years, the sixtieth anniversary of our wedding has just come round, providing an appropriate date for looking back on our life together as a couple and a family. So I can safely say that sixty years plus three children plus nine grandchildren plus one great-grandchild equals happiness.

Sixty years ago, in a secluded garden in Jerusalem’s charming German Colony neithbourhood, two young people, namely, Yigal and I, stood beneath a little canopy (Chuppah), together with a few friends and relatives, and were married in accordance with the age-old Jewish ceremony. My memory of that distant event is quite faint, but I do remember that sandwiches and drinks were served in an inside room, and that our respective relatives did their best to help us enjoy the event. My parents and two sisters had come from England to be there with us, and Yigal’s parents and sister, who lived in Israel, were there too, as well as assorted uncles, aunts, cousins and a few friends.
Sixty years ago the world was quite different. Yigal and I had met a few months earlier at a students’ party in Jerusalem, and on the basis of our relatively brief relationship and mutual love of classical music (especially chamber music) had decided that fate had destined us to ‘tie the knot.’
Many people would have hesitated to make such an important commitment on the basis of so brief an acquaintance, but we both felt that we were right for one another. Nowadays young people check out one another’s data on the internet and make or refrain from making a commitment on that basis. I don’t know if we would have done any better if we had had that possibility then.
The test of time seems to have proved our instinct right. Our three children were born in times of war and peace, bringing joy, laughter, agony and ecstasy into our lives. We grew as a family, managed to get through good and bad times, buy ourselves a place to live in, work in our respective fields. We grew as a family, doing our best to help and support one another and enable each of our children to make their own way in the world. We are very proud of them all, respect their life choices, and have been happy to welcome their respective spouses into our clan.
The ultimate benefit of having produced and brought up our children is being able to welcome their children – our grandchildren – into the family. These nine amazing individuals have brought endless happiness and delight into our lives, and they have now been supplemented by that most amazing of additions – a great-grandchild, in our case the daughter of one of our grandsons and his wife. It is also a delight to see the transformation of our daughter into a grandmother – a privilege which is both gratifying and humbling.
When we got married sixty years ago we had no idea what our lives would become. We were just happy to be together, and had no idea what lay ahead. We have been lucky, we are both still alive, continue to enjoy life, and all our various offspring seem to be happy and successful in their chosen careers and lives.
Summing up sixty years of married life is risky, but looking back at the rather naïve and lost person I was then and the still naïve but slightly less lost person I am today I feel I have had a good deal on this earth. My quiver is full, as they say, and I owe my happiness to the person who has been at my side all these years, my beloved husband, the love of my life, Yigal.








